I haven't posted in a while...... Working on the house has been exhausting me, and I've been spending too much time in my head. And, as we all know that can be a problematic for a recovering alcoholic - thinking quite frequently gets me off the beaten path and into the nearest quagmire.

There is a woman that I dance with at the local club. Lately, I have decided to put some distance between us because I was getting to wound up in unhealthy drama. I have written about her before. She drinks, but doesn't use drugs and has gone through treatment in the past for drugs. To date, she doesn't realize that alcohol is just another drug, and she believes that she doesn't have a problem with it.

When I first met her she would have one glass of wine, and then drink water the rest of the night. Now, her drinking has progressed to several drinks a night, and she recently started dating a woman that smokes pot. Unfortunately, she hasn't completely ended the last relationship she was in, and I think she is still seeing that woman too.

She knows that I am clean and sober. One of the reasons we couldn't date is because I need someone who is willing to not drink or use around me. Over the last several months I have watched her alcohol consumption increase and it bothers me. To me, it appears that she is positioning herself step by step closer to using drugs. I feel totally helpless.

There is no way she will accept any program information from me. She has made that very clear - my sobriety, and my program are for me to keep to my self. So, what would any program person do? I called another friend of hers that is in the program. I explained how I noticed the changes, and how I was worried that she was sliding down a slippery slope. This friend is going to figure out a way to 12 step her without giving up her sources. Now, all I can do is sit back and hope she has reached a bottom, and is willing to make changes.